I think I might be confused about what it means to be a grownup. A lot of the time I don’t feel like a grown adult. I don’t feel that I have the same interests as people that consider themselves adults. I feel like I’m a responsible person, but I still believe in magic and romance and danger and doom. I think I just sometimes feel distanced from people because I don’t have an analytical mind and there are a lot of things my brain just doesn’t grab on to. Also, when did people want to stop hanging out all night, going to cafe’s and driving around and watching movies (ok, well in my case falling asleep to movies) all night? I’m working hard at my career, trying to be the best I can be at it and move up the ladder (that sounds like grown-up talk right?) and Amy and I are saving up to buy a house and trying to live responsibly. However, I don’t find myself caring about fancy cars or status symbols (unless you’re talking about a great record collection) and making myself appear to be grown up. Maybe I’m just in denial, or just having some kind of crisis. Maybe when we have kids I’ll feel more adult. When I’m responsible for the care and well-being of a tiny child. I just think life is way more complicated than I ever thought it would be, and that makes me kind of happy. As always I find myself rambling by the end of my post. oops.
Currently Listening to: Nick Lowe – Labour of Lust LP (1979)
Great post Andrew. I totally get what you’re saying. Randy & I have never been about status and 401k’s and making lots of money. That’s not us. But I do remember that when we had kids and bought a house, we thought we’d have this drive and passion to want the things that others around strived for. But again, that wasn’t us.
All to say, be true to who you are. Authentic. Honest. Spontaneous. And I’d say you are all those things.
And that’s what I love about you Andrew.
The world’s view of a grown up and God’s view of a grown up are very different. You are doing well Andrew. It’s best not to chase after what the world chases after. Continue to be yourself and trust God with your life. Continue to be the person God created you to be: Fun and spontaneous, thoughtful, sometimes a loner, but needing friendships and family. Talented and smart and capable.
You’re a grown-up, but you are also Andrew. Unique, one of a kind. Thank goodness!!
I love you just the way you are brother! I know what you mean though…Im gonna be 25 in a week and I thought that when I was 25, I would be a real grown-up, but I still dont feel like a real adult
Its ok though, like mom said, we are awesome regardless of our grown-up status 
XOXO
I think that not being analytical and being attracted to magic and romance doesn’t mean that you aren’t a grown-up it just means that you are a more of a dreamer and a romantic than others might be. And just because you don’t want things doesn’t mean you aren’t grown-up, it just means that you haven’t bought into American consumerism.
Just ask the Little Prince, he’ll tell you, “If you tell grown-ups, ‘I saw a beautiful red brick house, with geraniums at the windows and doves on the roof…,’ they won’t be able to imagine such a house. You have to tell them, ‘I saw a house worth a hundred thousand francs.’ Then they exclaim, ‘What a pretty house!’”
It’s true that more responsibility, especially being responsible for the life of a baby makes you feel a lot more grown-up, but that doesn’t mean that weren’t already.
And who wants to be a grown-up anyway. I’d much rather eat ice cream and stay up all night.
More from The Little Prince, “I have spent lots of time with grown-ups. I have seen them at close range… which haven’t much improved my opinion of them.”
We should reread it! Book Club?!
I like Maggie’s comment.
I hope you never chase after fancy cars and status symbols. That’s why we all love you. Life is a series of choices and often the choice to pursue excessive wealth is a choice to neglect the other important areas of your life. I agree with your mom and I know that God is crazy about you just the way you are.
Thanks for sharing little bits of yourself with us here.